Watch Your Words

I have a family friend who often shares this wise advice with his children when they’re discussing the importance of watching their words. He tells them to ask themselves:

• Does it need to be said?

  
  

• Does it need to be said right now?

  
  

• Does it need to be said by me?

  
  

This simple yet profound guidance struck me as remarkable. I couldn’t trace its exact origin, but I know it’s been circulating online for years. It reminds me of a Bible verse: “And never let ugly or hateful words come from your mouth, but instead let your words become beautiful gifts that encourage others; do this by speaking words of grace to help them” (Ephesians 4:29, TPT).

I wish I could say I always have full control over my words, but that wouldn’t be true. How often I’ve longed to take back the sharp, hurtful things I’ve said—especially to my husband and children—only to realize they’re impossible to retrieve. We’ve all fallen short in this area at some point; no one is perfect. Over time, I’ve learned to extend grace to myself, letting go of unnecessary guilt. The temptation to dwell in regret still creeps in, and sometimes I give in, replaying those moments in my mind.

But sometimes I do slip back into old habits! I’m far from perfect, that's for sure, but I’ve come to see that I can counteract my mistakes by choosing words that are gentle and kind. My hope is that my words become “beautiful gifts” that uplift others and offer healing for the wounds I may have caused in the past.

I’ll close with this prayer from Psalm 19:14: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”

Lots of hugs and kisses from me to you!